It is difficult to name one’s desire or to hear one’s spouse articulate what they want without succumbing either to accusation or guilt. We often coat ourselves with blame or feel suffocated by shame instead of simply hearing and receiving the desires of the other. Desire is not meant to become a demand, nor is it intended to merely fade away like footprints in the sand. Desire is meant to awaken us to be alert and attentive to the other, honoring their desire, but in a way that also honors one’s